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Looking at how your parents handle your younger siblings have you ever realised that his terribly they handle something likely is why you have issues now?

 

I've seen dozens of things that my mom does with my younger sister that seem to hint to things that I have issues with now or had issues with in the past.

I see it in other people. My family is pretty good in terms of parenting, though there could be improvements. I'm not complaining, though, since I don't recall any problems related to parenting. The closest thing that I can think of off the top of my head is that I was very loud at one point as a child and was told by a teacher that I should be quieter. This affected me a lot more than it should've and basically up until high school I was pretty quiet unless around friends or family. It's not a big thing -- it might've even been that I was just naturally quiet (I was as a baby) -- but it still had it's effect on me for a number of years. 

Not as such... but for some reason, my dear departed grandmother favored me over my younger sister. I don't remember the specifics, but it always struck me as strange. She seemed stricter with her, & less encouraging.

Water under the bridge. Just... I still miss her sometimes, & I don't think my sister does, at all.

It seems like a lot of the time grand/parents favor the one who cares/does/is around least.

I see it with grandmother-in-law & her kids.  Can't tell if the two that do everything for her are like that because they know she favorites the one who lives far away, or if she likes him best because he's not around.  They say she always liked him best.

This makes perfect sense to me, since I'm the eldest.  Of course, I was treated like the proverbial "red-headed stepchild" and am either unwilling or unable to overlook the violence that was inflicted on me, lest I forget and continue the cycle.

Yeah, my younger siblings got off easy compared to what I went through, but even they didn't deserve the hand they were dealt.

Hahahahahaha yes.  

Also, I've realized a lot of issues I had with my parents are related to issues they had with their parents.  If you have kids, you'll do stuff wrong too, in an attempt to not repeat your parents' mistakes. 

This. This to the nth degree. I love my parents, but I've come to realize that their parents were NOT good at parenting.  And in some areas the overcompensated, I think, but in other areas they kind of made the same mistakes, but on a smaller scale. And, well... I do come by my crazy honestly. Neither of them are, exactly, but they both have small traits that remind me of how I feel myself. That said... they are the MOST supportive, and I'm really grateful to them for that. <3

 

My brothers watch those loud youtubers that scream all the time or act obnoxious for their fans. My brothers started to imitate them a few months back. For now I'm quiet about it since I'm moving out in a year or two anyway. But say I was 14 or younger and had to put up with that with two other siblings, I would tell them to cut that shit out.