No, I'm saying that sometimes, there are people who just set themselves up to get picked on and hated on not because their behavior is "different" or "alien", but because it is universally self-destructive and plain annoying to everyone else, and despite the fact that everyone tells them to do to stop setting themselves up, they continue to do practice terrible habits, behaviors, and beliefs that continue to not only pester, but hinder everyone else's progress with everything. Eventually, nobody wants to bother defending others that aren't willing to make steps to improve themselves.
And then those people ask : "Why do people belittle me? Why am I hated?"
And they're asking all these questions, but they never try to find that answer themselves. Always so dependent on people to do things for them, these poor individuals sometimes think their answer is to what people tell them online : "They're just jealous. OMG they're just haters."
Other times, these poor individuals derive their answers from their abusers. "It's because you're not worth it. Go kill yourself, faggot. Bitch, you've done nothing good. JUST. LEAVE."
While, in some cases, these answers might be right or wrong, I doubt that the generic "it gets better" will be a cure-all to this case of lost kids with no foundation to base and strengthen themselves on. Blind hope without some solid evidence of improvement (if those poor people even know what "improvement" for themselves is, I've observed) can only go so far.
And after ALL THE HELP AND EFFORT THOUSANDS OF CARING PEOPLE POOR INTO THESE INDIVIDUALS, sometimes, that isn't enough.
This isn't to say that anyone deserves to have their life progress impeded, but the way we're tackling this problem is (from what I've seen in my highschool and surrounding highschools) way too over generalized to do any good. Sometimes, we're spending too much time on people not worth helping (yes, I've said it. There will be people that will be in a sorry state regardless of what you do) that we're missing the people that ARE worth helping. Sometimes, we're trying to tackle massive problems with a moderate "it applies to almost everyone to the point it doesn't even matter and I don't feel motivated to do SHIT" approach instead of actually cracking down on what can we save vs. what we can't save. It's sad that we have no solution to stopping apathetic assholes from anonymously taking potshots at a kid who can't get help in the physical world. It's sad that we haven't addressed, let alone identify as a whole country, that we won't be able to get the job 110% done because we've been training everyone to do the right things the wrong way.
When I mean "it's a dumbass no one likes", I mean it's a waste-of-resources person that probably would contemplate suicide after looking what's on the news every day instead of saying "here is a problem; let's make this go one way or the other and progress, march forward, and move on." It's someone who, after they've seen all the anti-bullying vids, are literally handed outreaches to rehab programs, are immersed in such WONDERFUL communities that encourages the power of individuality and community, and are run through every kind of antidepressant there is on the market, will not resolve to rebound and take life head-on without a powered exoskeleton built of the bones of their parents, caretakers, and the outstanding models of society. It's someone who's so incredibly weak, they are guaranteed to do badly in life even with an aide present, after DECADES of help.
If teens are told to ignore people who attack them, then why are we not ignoring people who will do nothing for them, even if their lives depending on those people doing ANYTHING? We're not looking hard enough at what's making things go wrong, be it on the bully's or the victims side. Instead, we're placing the bullies as the perpetrators, and on social media, we're encouraging (WorldStarHipHop is just one of many examples) people to beat the shit out of each other and leave it at that.
And no, even if I meant what I actually said, we're still perping the bullies and doing barely anything to help them get out of that state of being a bully.
