I, for one, try to avoid writing from the opposite gender. So, if ever I get my act together and start making and finishing stories, they're likely to be from either a definite female lead, or a very neutral lead.
As for reading, I really don't care what perspective I read from, simply because I'm used to reading a lot of 'straight through' fiction that is from a male POV in the first person, or follows male protagonists. ;
My issue with sex in those situations is mostly that people can be rather crass about it, and that wouldn't matter if it was from a male or female perspective.